One of our problems is that our outbound email server sucks sometimes. Users will trigger an email in our application, and the application can take on the order of 30 seconds to actually send it. Let's make it even worse and admit that we're not even doing this on a background thread, so the user is completely blocked during this time. SQL Server Database Mail has been proposed as a solution to this problem, since it basically implements a message queue and is physically closer and far more responsive than our third party email host. It's also admittedly really easy to implement for us, since it's just replacing one call to SmtpClient.Send with the execution of a stored procedure. Most of our application email contains PDFs, XLSs, and so forth, and I've seen the size of these attachments reach as high as 20MB.
Using Database Mail to handle all of our application email smells bad to me, but I'm having a hard time talking anyone out of it given the extremely low cost of implementation. Our production database server is way too powerful, so I'm not sure that it couldn't handle the load, either. Any ideas or safer alternatives?
All you have to do is run it through an SMTP server and if you're planning on sending large amounts of mail out then you'll have to not only load balance the servers (and DNS servers if you're planning on sending out 100K + mails at a time) but make sure your outbound Email servers have the proper A records registered in DNS to prevent bounce backs.
It's a cheap solution (minus the load balancer costs).